Answering Your Questions, part II

I am answering ten more questions that I have gotten from readers and a couple that I looked up that seemed like they would be interesting to answer! Thanks again for all the responses!

  • What is on your current playlist and what does your playlist say about you?

My current playlist is all over the place. I’ve got a lot of different genres, upbeat, with a wide variety of lyrical topics, but mostly inspiring. I think my playlist says that I’m open to anything musically, but also trying to remain upbeat in my life currently. I have to say I am listening to a lot of Lizzo lately!

  • How do you show yourself love?

I take care of myself by remaining mindful of things that need to get done, but also being mindful of the food I eat, the amount of exercise I get (or don’t get) for the day, being mindful of the music I listen to based on my current mood… if I’m depressed, I do my best to listen to upbeat and inspiring songs. Mindfulness is key when showing yourself love! I always make sure to sit down for a few minutes, or shoot, even hours sometimes, and watching my favorite show or movie, listening to my favorite song, whatever it takes.

  • How do you stay productive?

Sometimes I have to make myself be productive, honestly. But other days when I know I have to get stuff done, like my homework, then I just do it. I think I’ve conditioned myself enough when it comes to homework to do it on certain days. Otherwise, sometimes I just have to make myself be productive, and I know that that is okay. I have to constantly remind myself that if I don’t have much of a productive day that tomorrow is a new day!

  • What were some red flags you saw that made you consider burning bridges?

Red flags are sometimes right in front of our faces, but we don’t recognize them simply because we don’t want to. I started burning bridges when I started realizing that my well-being and my mental health are worth way more than constantly being taken advantage of, lied to, cheated on, manipulated, talked about, etc. When someone truly cannot be happy for you when you succeed at something, there is a red flag. That means that they need that upper hand, that feeling of being the best, and you’re not allowed to have it. Or… they simply don’t care that you succeeded at something. That’s when you know that person doesn’t belong in your life. When you feel like you have to fight for their attention, and when you do get it, it’s a constant competition or a constant struggle to keep their attention, let it go. It’s not worth it anymore. When you’re never included in their plans but they get mad when they’re not in your plans, there’s another red flag. You don’t need that kind of toxic negativity in your life. Nobody does. But when those toxic people refuse to see their toxicity and try to fix it, let them go.

  • Where do you want to go, and what do you want to accomplish with your writing?

My writing started off as something fun, random, off the wall… I knew I was okay at it, but I never had any intention of doing anything with it. Now that I’m older and I’ve been writing for more than 20 years, I feel like it’s turned into something so much more for me. It’s therapeutic. It allows me to be vulnerable and advocate for something that means the world to me. I don’t have the talent of public speaking; that terrifies me to no end. But when I write, I feel like I can conquer anything. My main goal for my writing is to inspire people. When I realized that advocacy and helping people might be my purpose in this world, I turned my random, off the wall writing into something that might mean something to someone one day. If I inspire only one person to feel like they’re worth so much more than what their thoughts are telling them, I feel like I’ve fulfilled my purpose in the world. As for where I want to go, I love writing, I love research, I love analyzing data, so I’d love to use those things to my advantage. But I know I can also put those hobbies to use professionally and personally by hopefully helping those dealing with mental illness.

  • If you could invite three people to dinner, who would you invite? What would you talk about?

I’m going to assume this question means only real people and not fictional characters, and both alive and deceased.

If I could invite three people to dinner, I’d invite my best friend Katy that passed away last year, Kelly Clarkson, and my mother. I know it’s quite a difference there, but I’ve strategically picked these people because all three of them have had such an undeniable impact on my life and on my own mental health. I picked Katy because I feel like I’d have so many less regrets if I could just talk to her one last time about anything and everything. I picked Kelly because she’s my favorite singer, yes, but she seems like she’s such an amazing person to be around. I feel like maybe I could convince her to talk about mental health on her new show or something, I don’t know. As for my mother, I talk to her every single day and we still always have something to talk about. I just love being around her and talking about everything.

  • Where is your writing place?

Believe it or not, my writing place is always in my room at my desk. I rarely ever get inspired anywhere else. My little corner is my inspiration station!

  • Describe your writing process.

My writing process is somewhat all over the place, but I have a notebook with my notes in it. I look through the notes, start writing what’s on my mind and just let my fingers keep moving. I’ll go through and edit here and there, but I’m a perfectionist so I usually fix the errors right away. It doesn’t take much for me to just keep writing. I usually always have music playing, but I focus a lot better when I have my headphones rather the music just playing through my blue tooth speaker. My writing process is boring and not fancy at all, but it works for me.

  • If you could change one thing about your life, what would it be?

Easy. I would get rid of the social anxiety. I know this is against the “rules,” but another thing: I’d go back in time and stand up for myself against the people that bullied me.

  • Who are five bloggers/writers that inspire you?

Ooh, five? This one is difficult.

  1. Matt Haig. He’s my favorite author and a fellow mental health advocate. I love his writing style and how transparent and vulnerable he is in his writing about his own struggles with depression and anxiety.
  2. Jarrid Wilson. He was a pastor and writer that was also a fellow mental health advocate. He recently died by suicide, which was so incredibly rough to hear about since he was such an incredible advocate for people struggling with depression.
  3. Jamie Tworkowski. He founded one of my favorite mental health organizations, To Write Love On Her Arms. He’s such an incredible writer. He’s open, honest, and compassionate in his writing.
  4. Lindsey Hall. She’s a writer of a blog called I Haven’t Shaved In 6 Days. I just recently discovered her and I love her writing style, but also how honest she is.
  5. Kati Morton. She is a writer and licensed therapist. Her book Are U Ok? was so helpful for me, even when I had known about a good bit about the stuff she was writing at the time I read the book (It’s hard to be in therapy and a psychology major and not learn a crap ton of stuff). She’s also a YouTuber who is one of two YouTubers I still actively watch.

That’s all the questions! Thank you for submitting questions and/or reading!

Ali Vee

 

Answering Your Questions!

On Facebook and Twitter, I decided to ask my readers to ask me some questions and I got a great response. With those questions and a few I found floating around on the internet, I am going to start answering them! This will be a multiple part post because I’m still getting questions from readers. I’ll do 10 questions each post.

  • What would you love to learn how to do?

There’s a lot of things I would love to learn how to do. I can’t limit it to a certain number of things, because I love learning. One major thing, however, would be to learn how to better socialize with people.

  • What are your favorite books?

My favorite book would definitely have to be Reasons to Stay Alive by Matt Haig. The other four favorites would be Ready Player One by Ernest Cline, Smoke Gets In Your Eyes by Caitlin Doughty, From Here to Eternity by Caitlin Doughty (I love her writing style, and she’s really made me respect the different cultures when it comes to dealing with their deceased loved ones), and Supermarket by Bobby Hall (aka Logic, the rapper).

  • What is your motto for life?

I have quite a few actually, but the main one is Stay Strong. I have it tattooed on my wrists for a reason! On a more silly side, I love the quote from my all time favorite television show, Parks and Recreation: “I stand by my decision to avoid salads and other disgusting things.” Ah that Leslie Knope is a wise one.

  • What is the next vacation you’d love to take?

You don’t know how many vacations I have planned in my head, ha! I have a couple planned to visit friends in south Louisiana and Texas and I plan to do some hiking while I’m there. The big vacation I’m saving up for is a trip to Los Angeles! My dad grew up in LA, so I have family there that I want to visit, and I’m an LA Kings, Angels, and Clippers fan so I’d love to see them. Hollywood sign, all that cool stuff.

  • What is the best gift you’ve ever received?

Oh, this one is easy. My dog, Finn, is easily the best gift I’ve ever received. I got him for Christmas in 2016, and we’ve been inseparable ever since. He’s my therapy dog, too. He was supposed to be my service dog, but he’s too friendly and wants to greet everyone and say hello and service dogs can’t do that; they have to stay focused. Haha. He’s my best boy and I joke with my parents all the time that they’ll never top that gift in the coming years!

  • What is your favorite memory?

While I talk about bad memories of being bullied, I have good memories too! Hanging out with my best friends, making comedy videos, travelling across the country… it was all so much fun. Travelling to Japan with my mom was pretty amazing as well. I got to visit my sister, brother in law, and nieces while we were there and hanging out with them while sightseeing was really an unforgettable experience!

  • What are the top things you’ve learned over the past year?

I’ve learned a lot in the past year. The top things would have to be to listen to my gut and don’t disregard the red flags about someone. I’ve known that since I was a child, but the past year I got slapped in the face with it. I have trust issues, so I need to continue to listen to my gut rather than wanting to give people multiple chances only to be let down time and time again.

  • What is your dream job?

I’d love to work in the criminology field. I love the psychology behind crimes and criminals, so after 27 years I found that it is what I need to work for in college!

  • What is on your bucket list?

So. Many. Things. I am almost 29 years old and I feel like I haven’t done even 10% of the things on my bucket list, so I’m working on it. Travelling the world, trying new foods, health related things, etc. My main item is to truly inspire someone, so I’m hoping I can do that for someone.

  • What are your go-to phone apps?

I admit I am on my phone too much! My go to apps are Facebook, Twitter, Spotify, and the camera app!

 

Thank you for the questions! I’ll answer ten more in another post soon!

Ali Vee